How often have you come across a crossroads in life where you have make a decision that will decide your life for the foreseeable future? Usually, I imagine they don’t come along that often. Recently I had to make one of those decisions.
By now, most everyone knows that my background is in show business and very recently I’ve gotten back into my dialogue coach work on a new sitcom. (Don’t get me wrong, I love writing, but until I become a best seller, I still need to pay the mortgage! <G> But I digress.) I love the cast, crew and exec producers of my show, so when I was offered a job working on another show closer to home, I had to consider it. I really agonized over this dilemma. The new show is closer to home and would probably entail less hours and certainly less work required of me because I really only had one cast member who needed me. I took everything under consideration… the commute, the schedule and how it works with my family, the working environment. I made my pros and cons list which was fairly detailed. I have to say the new show won in the pros department, but I decided to stay with my current show mainly because I got attached to the cast. Every one is so wonderful and funny and I didn’t have the heart to leave them. So, yes, I drive a longer distance and work more hours, but I’m happy knowing that I have a place to go everyday where the people appreciate what I do and they love me anyway. <G> I’m happy with my decision and now I just need the show to be a hit so I can pay my mortgage for the next half dozen years or so.
Here’s a pic of me with some of the cast members from a recent episode. If you have kids, you may or may not recognize the young man on the far right.
What about you? Any major life decisions that you were glad you made… or maybe not so glad?
Dee J. Adams 
My major life decision came early – when my hubby asked me to marry him, I was 19. I hadn’t planned on getting married for at least another decade; I didn’t know what I wanted to do or who I wanted to be. But he asked me – and I could see my future in his eyes. So I took a chance and said yes.
Since that was almost 33 years ago, and we’re still happy together, I can honestly say I’ve never regretted the decision that I made at 19.
Hi Christine,
That is so damn sweet! Clearly the best decision you ever made. LOL. It’s nice to hear that there are people just as happy together as when they first married! Congrats to you! And thanks for dropping in!
Wow – That sounds like a tough decision, especially knowing the tough hours etc. I suspect you slept better the night you made up your mind, right?
I am currently trying to make the big decision to stay where I am, or to venture into the possibly free-falling world of self-publishing. I honestly don’t know if I want to be my own publisher along with chief promo and bottle washer etc. I’ll get back to you. *(sometimes, those decisions get made for us, you know? It all depends on the contract) 🙂
Hi Lynne,
I think I did sleep much better after I made my decision. And after a few cast members found out (not by me) that I had been offered another show and stayed, they made me feel very glad about remaining with them. I’m with you on the self publishing decision too! Not sure I should, but feeling like I should give it a try… and still not sure I should. LOL. Maybe we’ll travel that path together!
You choose well. It really does all come down to those with whom you spend so many hours of the day (and night, I know those “days” run over).
Last major life decision I made (or at least the one I remember, having many menopausal moments these days) was to leave an office job to work at home. I cannot stand being in an office. I’m exponentially introverted, and noise makes me insane. I give good extrovert as necessary but an office environment is not for me. I weighed the money over sanity. The sanity won but the first five years were terribly grim, financially. Now it’s paying off and I’m so much happier.
Sophie.
Hi Sophie,
Yep, it really does matter who you spend the majority of your time with. Life is just too short to be miserable. You made a pretty significant decision! Good for you for sticking it out and keeping your sanity. Glad it’s paying off for you! Thanks for stopping in!
I’ve weathered many of those decisions in my years, and expect a few more along the way. Sometimes the saying, a bird in hand is worth more than two in the bush, has merit. You chose to remain where you are happy rather than venture into an unknown situation.
Sometimes life is about where we are, as opposed to where we might be if…
Hi Roz,
I agree. I think many times we think the grass is always greener, but with age/experience we realize that’s not always true. Though I might have been closer to home with better hours, I didn’t want to take the chance that I’d automatically have the good relationships that I did with the current people/place. I didn’t want to blow a good thing. Thanks for coming by!
Yep I agree, happiness trumps more money and other benefits. You chose wisely. : )
For me, I haven’t made any life altering decisions in a long while. Hmmm, maybe I’m due. Hope not because I’m fairly content at the moment. My biggest problem is I dwell on the decisions for a long time and then when I finally decide it’s like it happens overnight and everyone thinks I’m spontaneous instead of being an old procrastinator. ; )
Hi Robena,
Thanks. I do feel as if I made the right choice. Your last big decision affected me when you moved so far away! I’m kinda hoping your next big decision is to come back. LOL. So think about that and when you move back we can call you spontaneous.
I love the pro/con lists, but, like you, I end up listening to my heart. And I always think that’s the “right” answer, ultimately. ‘Cause really, what else are you gonna do?
Let’s see, my last “major” life decision? A couple in the midwest contacted our agency in response to our “dear birthparents” letter. We decided to repond with a “yes.” Everything from that moment on was absolutely life-changing, in an absolutely awesome way!
Hi Sam,
Wow! I got chills! (The good ones. LOL.) That is very cool! Yeah, I was hoping the list would work – and it did in a certain way, but not the way I expected. I went where my gut and heart told me to go. Just goes to show that a pro/con list doesn’t always work the way it’s supposed to. Thanks for stopping in!